Parents Need Sleepovers
Story by Kymberly Breckenridge
Illustrated by Tatyana Starikova
As I drove my daughter to her sleepover and cursed the traffic for making me late to my son’s sleepover, it dawned on me that I deserved a sleepover too. I had a honeymoon, couldn’t afford a babymoon and haven’t had a weekend trip away without a dependent with me since marriage. Why can’t I hang out with my husband in pajamas away from the house watching movies and eating naughty food?
There is a desire recently in sociology to examine the phenomenon of “middle marriage,” the five to 10 years into a marriage when the children are most dependent on the couple and reduce loving people to resentful roommates and hostile childcare providers. Any long-term relationship has to balance those delicious early feelings of excitement with what we seek out in committing to a long-term relationship—stability and comfort. Beware, too much comfort can feel like predictability and boredom. The very thing we desire from a long-term commitment becomes the thing that drives us crazy and feels like chains.